Ready set selection time! So either you are the one that always had her mind made up that her best friends from grade school to college were to be her wedding day support group. Or you are the girl that is still selecting through the top pick of her current inner circle. Or you just need your one and only BFF by your side... Make sure you choose wisely. You need your maid of honor and your bridal party to work together to get you down that aisle smoothly. Well that and the help of a good wedding coordinator of course.
Recently I stumbled across a bride that did not have a bridal shower thrown for her. She was one of my day of destination clients so it wasn't my immediate duty however I did touch on the possibility of doing one here in Vegas once she arrived. I asked my bride where were her girls at? Bridal party? Cousins? Sisters ? She pretty much was clueless to the fact that these things need to be and should be handled by her bridal party or close friends attending the wedding and of course guided and planned out by yours truly.
I found a website that is actually pretty neat. They offer all kinds of bridal gifts and wedding necessities for your every day of needs www.personalcreations.com/blog/bridesmaid-duties. Other than their creative crafts they have a blog on their website that sheds major light on the duties and responsibilities that goes along with being a maid of honor or bridesmaid. I agree with all of the blog and I'd like to add my two cents by sharing their blog and adding a few helpful insights of my own.
The delegation part of it is usually as tough as selecting your bridal party. After all it is never easy to ask someone to do something for you and no one ever wants to feel super bossy, but understand you are entitled to this treatment for your special wedding day and they should all know that when it is their turn you will offer that very same sisterhood to them. So your maid of honor or matron of honor (If she already be wed) is usually your best friend or sister someone you can totally trust and rely on in a sticky spot and knows most of your likes and dislikes. This lady (Or gentlemen for more modern celebrations) should be your right hand in decision making and wedding planning milestones. Your maid of honor will be thrilled and the other bridesmaids maybe just a tad bit jealous but they will realize or remember having to make the same difficult choice for their own wedding. She will most likely put together all your engagement party plans, Ask the other girls to help during the planning process ( So you may not have to), Go with you and your honey on your various venue trips ( Search online if destination), Stand in during vendor consults ( Like hiring a great planner) and they are all going to want to join you on your wedding dress ventures.
In the middle of your planning timeline your maid of honor or bridesmaids may be able to help you with your guest lists and RSVP's, and or helping you with sending out invitations and updating gift registries. This is also one of the best times to bond with your posse as this coming of age celebration for some of us only comes once in a life time. Turn it up your style... Have meetings about your wedding by the pool over pina colodas or arrange a spa day while looking at swatches... What do I always say? "These are your moments, Enjoy them". Your bridesmaid and maid of honor will enjoy them also and do not leave them out for the cake tasting portion of your wedding planning, They will really enjoy that!
About a month or so before the big day your maid of honor should have offered to confirm your guest list and call those who have yet to RSVP, organize your bridal shower and make sure the wedding dress is going to fit and be ready. Your wedding planner should have taken care of confirming your vendors but your maid of honor can make sure everyone receives payment and picking up any last minute wedding nic-nacs (guest book, favors, champagne flutes, garter belt, bubbles, ring pillow etc) and making sure they get to the coordinator to set up for day of the wedding. Your bridesmaids and maid or honor will put together your bachelorette functions and I sincerely suggest doing so few days prior to the wedding as appose to the night before... Better safe than sorry.
Day of the wedding your girls and your wedding planner will be there for you hand and train! Maid of honor's sole job is to make sure you get down that aisle as beautifully as she knows you have dreamed it. She is to keep tabs on the ring and get the marriage license to the officiant or wedding planner for proper handling. She checks in with the groomsmen and assures they are on the same page. As a group your bridal party will make sure everything is perfect just they way you all planned it. So now as the bride your only responsibility is to thank your ladies for getting you thru this time and gift them a little token of your appreciation (robes, bracelets, keepsakes). Make sure to get your something borrowed, something old, something new and something blue grab your beautiful bridal bouquet that is an extension of your pretty dress and strut down your aisle and marry the person of your dreams.